Our Friendship is Over!

Long time, no post right?!! Anyway, there are these animated computer movies that are kind of all the rage right now on youtube. So...I'm watching a couple during my lunch break, thinking: "I can do this!" And so I did. It's an amalgamation of 1) friends who create mountains of love out of the smallest speck of boy attention, and 2) my theory of why single girls often lose their married friends. So here goes, my first movie!!!

Part Joke




Part Serious

There’s a certain solidarity in being two (or three, or however many) single women. It’s like you instantly have something in common with someone who you don’t actually have anything in common with. For the brief time that you are both single, you share the same hopes, the same dreams, and the same goals…the same desire for a life lived with a good man. And we wonder why we lose our friends to marriage? Maybe it's not the marriage that precipitates the loss, but rather, the natural dissolution of a friendship based on mere circumstance and necessity. Is it possible that we need this friend just to see us the through the storm? I think that sometimes we’ve been out in the rain so long, we don’t recognize that we’re only standing under the umbrella of friendship so as not to get soaking wet. Soaking wet. But the raindrops still hit us, we step in puddles of loneliness, and we yearn for sunny days. It’s crazy to think how the sun can shine on one person, and yet leave another totally cast in darkness.

Heavy.

But for real, I don't believe this to be true of all friendships. We know the rules, 1) some for a reason, 2) some for a season, and 3) some for a lifetime. Marriage, however, can be a test of where the friendship falls in that spectrum. Sometimes we don't even have to wait for marriage. Sometimes a serious boyfriend can shed light on the truth of a relationship's foundation. Are you someone they want to stand by, or are you merely a stand-in?

Food for thought.

So there you go, my part joke/part serious for the month.