Instant Gratification is when you get the thing that you want/desire as soon as you express or work towards that desire. It's immediate. You want it, you set out to get it, and BOOM it's in your hands.
It's an awesome thing that rarely exists in the natural world.
I'm not sure how we came to believe in and desire instant gratification. I think, maaaaybe, it started out with creationism. "Let there be light" and what happened? There was LIGHT. What?!?! Can I do that too?!!
Sadly, the answer is a resounding: nope. I have found that out in painful detail over the past two weeks. In the final days in Bali--whether due to all the noodles or all the rice, I don't know which--I realized I had packed on a few LBs. This was distressing, and I decided I would commence a weight loss plan upon my return.
It has been two weeks, and I am freaked out that I don't weigh like 13lbs less already. Why? Because I'm looking for instant gratification (IG). I know that IG in this circumstance is irrational and stupid, but I don't care. After I eat a particularly healthy meal, I feel my stomach (is there less fat in there because of that one meal?). After I work out, I feel my stomach (have I burned away all the fat yet?). I have done this every day (even on the FIRST day).
The key here for me is patience. If I'm patient, and I stick to "the plan" I will be nearly there in 5 weeks (per www.myfitnesspal.com). If I can wait 5 weeks, I'll get everything that's coming to me, but sometimes we can't wait, and the results are disastrous.
There is a story that Christians have heard 100 times. It's so played that even non-Christians know the reference: The Prodigal Son.
I've always focused on the story being about the return of what's lost. And it is definitely about that. However, it is also a lesson in patience.
“There was a man who had two sons. The younger one said to his father, ‘Father, give me my share of the estate.’ So he divided his property between them.
Luke 15:11-12
Normally, people get their inheritance when their parents have...ummm...died. This dude wanted what was "his" when it still technically belonged to someone else. Is that crazy or what? This guy grew up watching his father work and build this inheritance, and maybe he started to dream of all he could accomplish with that money. Maybe he looked at his older brother and thought: "you are wasting your best years! There's a whole world out there to be seen...it just has to be financed!" And so he requests his inheritance NOW and leaves. Based on the story (see Luke 15:13), he clearly wasn't ready to have his inheritance. He wanted his life to start so badly that he almost ended it. He spent all the money and then a FAMINE came. Imagine that, broke in a famine. He almost died out there. And I wonder, what would have happened had he waited:
- His inheritance would have grown instead of being lost
- He would have grown older and possibly wiser, better able to manage a fortune
- He would have gone through the famine at home, with his father who had storehouses of food/supplies.
1. Not married
2. Finances are funny
3. Sick
4. Unhappy/Mad/Jealous
5. Whatever goes in these types of lists
I get to points when I'm thinking: "you are wasting your best years!"* and I go about trying to make myself happy by any means necessary. And I end up like the prodigal son: broke, in a famine.
Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do
God's will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.
Hebrews 10:36 (NLT)
Impatient people find it hard, exceedingly difficult, and then downright impossible to live out God's will for them, because they constantly see/are looking for another way. There has to be a better, shorter, more fun way...
Right?
*Please know that is a lie and a trick of the enemy. When I stop to think about it, I realized that I have had so many awesome experiences. And so many things have worked out in my favor, but when you're impatient about just one thing...suddenly your life is meaningless. Guard against such thoughts.
This was a very interesting read, Krissy!
ReplyDeleteI believe my awareness of instant gratification came from my "social media awakening" so to speak. When I joined fb years ago, I remember wondering what my old high school friends were up to. Then, with the click of a link, I could find out instantly without having to exchange numbers or doing the catch up thing. I would post pictures of myself or my work and would get so hype when people would instantly "like" my links or retweet my writings. I got so caught up in the instant gratification, that when someone didn't do these things right away, I thought my work was bad or my new profile pic must be ugly (I know it sounds weird, but I'm just being honest lol). Before I got so involved in fb and twitter these things didn't matter so much. So I try not to spend as much time worried about what's on them as I used to.
I tend to do this with my praying from time to time as well. I will ask God for something and feel like it wasn't destined for me to have if I don't see the prayer materialize soon. That is why I am so glad God is still working on me. It's not about my timing, but His timing. Just as you shared with the verse from Hebrews. I keep praying for patience and all the while I'm getting it--- in a way I didn't imagine. I get tested in ways that stretch my patience lol.
Great post! Thanks for sharing!
I'm the same way. If my prayers aren't answered immediately...I must be "asking amiss" OR I need to consecrate a "holy" fast unto the Lord. That might be the case, but it's more likely that I can just keep praying that same prayer AND eat food...b/c it's about timing. It's about patience.
DeleteI think about praying for more patience, but then I realize that what I'd need to go through to get it could potentially be really awful in the short term. Is it possible to get instantaneous and miraculous patience? Haha
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